Respect isn't given,it's earned. I have two adult kids both married. Coached them both in different sports. There were times I would get ticked, but knocking them into the next county, never came into the mix. I've remarried and am doing it all over again. Same scenerio, daughter is older by 3yrs on her brother. Little guys are 8yrs and 5yrs. They are great and wouldn't ever think of changing anything. I have to admit things are much faster pace now, but if you make time for them and show them that you really love them,you'll will have bumps along the way,but it goes by to fast not to stop and smell the roses. Watched a movie last week that some people might think is a little corny,but it made me think. Name of the movie was" Courageous" I think every Dad should watch it. In the mean time, I think it hurts me more than my kids if I have to give a spank now and then. No one ever said it would be easy,but the great things in life never do.