Stay at home moms?
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polarisrider1
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My wife is a stay at home Mom. She was a cost accountant and made good money. The deal was she would go back to work when the kids were all in school. Well that was 25 yrs. ago and I am still waiting for her to go back to work. Then again that's not true. (since some of you know her) She does run one of our companies. Kids are all grown and out of the house. I do not regret her being home with the kids. I was working all the time and it was good she could do it.
peppermill
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I was a stay at home mom. I loved it. The only thing that was hard that after being home all day I would want to do things at night and the husband had been working all day and just wanted to stay home. That was especially hard when the kids were little and not yet in school. Being home with them all day I just wanted to get away for a few hours and be with adults. When they were school age it was great as I got involved with everything they did at school. I got to meet new people and got more involved in different things. If I had a choice would I do it again? In a heartbeat. I am sure glad I did. Kids tell us to this day they were sure glad that mom was able to stay home and be there when they needed somebody when they got home from school.
my wife decided about 4 years ago that she wanted to be a stay at home mom. So I told we couldn't afford it and she had to find me a different job (she was an HR manager for a large company.) So we also decided if we were going to make this change, where would we want to live? We decided on the Duluth area, close to our cabin on the north shore, we both went to college at UMD, etc... So somehow she pulled it off. I love having her stay at home as it is great for the kids, the house is clean, nice dinners are ready, etc... The big diffference is the finances, we can't afford the things we used to and we struggled with that for quite a while. But you adjust and we are getting better at it. For us it has been a great move though.
peppermill
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Exactly. It's great that my wife can volunteer at the kids school, go on trips with them, spend the summers at home with them.
HIGHLANDER
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my wife says she could never do it...LOL
snowmomof2
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I stayed home with my boys. I am so glad I could do it, I was able to help out at their school and go on field trips. Those are some of my best memories! Best of all I was always there when they needed me most. I took a job as a waitress a few nights a week when my husband was home to make ends meet. Sure we gave up some things, but it was so worth spending that time with my boys. I wouldn't trade that time for the world.
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lenny
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My wife is a stay at home mom, couldn't ask for a better setup. She worked early on before our children came and made good money but how do you put a price on the welfare of your kids. We felt God is the giver of life and have loved every minute of raising 4 kids. What a responsibility we all have, thanks to the big guy above!!!!!!
lenny, you talk the way we feel. There is no money that can make up for the time lost away from the kids. We are blessed to be able to do this now, only wish we would have done it sooner. We know God will provide for us and that this is the right thing to do for our family.
bobsledder
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My wife stayed at home until our daughters were in school full time. I work from home so I was around for the sick days, school trips and whatever came up. For mothers Day we spent a wondefull day with our adult daughters and their husbands. At that time they wanted what the other kids had and we wanted what their parents had. Now the tables have turned and adulthood lasts much longer than childhood! We feel very proud when our daughters talk about their plans to stay home with their children.
My wife stayed at home until our daughters were in school full time. I work from home so I was around for the sick days, school trips and whatever came up. For mothers Day we spent a wondefull day with our adult daughters and their husbands. At that time they wanted what the other kids had and we wanted what their parents had. Now the tables have turned and adulthood lasts much longer than childhood! We feel very proud when our daughters talk about their plans to stay home with their children.
My wife is also a stay at home mom. We are very fortunate to be able to afford to do it. She loves it now but in the beginning she struggled a little because she had some sort of job since she was 12 years old. Now that she is used to it she would never go back. The other benefit that we have found is, because she stays at home, she is not only taking care of the kids, but she also takes care of all the household chores, including paying the bills etc. So when I get home we not only have time to spend with the kids but also with each other. It has definately worked out well for us.
No stay at home dads? 16 years for me, although I did start an at home business at the same time. So I'm not much good for getting house work done, but the kids were always with me.
When I started they were 3 and 4, most customers knew what I was doing and let me bring them to most meetings. Found a sitter when needed.
Now they are older I also have a couple part time jobs, but still here most days.
When I started they were 3 and 4, most customers knew what I was doing and let me bring them to most meetings. Found a sitter when needed.
Now they are older I also have a couple part time jobs, but still here most days.
Just lost my job so now I'm a stay at home dad. Wife went full time she makes good money. It's more work staying at home with these kids than going to work. Kids ages are 6mths,3,4 and 8.All boys It's a little easier now that it is getting nice out and I can take them outside and wear them out. I do enjoy staying at home with them.
Each family needs to do what's right for them. I will say- I would highly recommend getting your kid into a daycare or preschool program once they hit the age of 2- if not sooner. I went to part time for a bit when my kids were born so I wouldn't have to send an infant to daycare. But they started 'school' around the age of 10-11mo. It was a good age as they were mobile, could feed themselves, etc. Even if I didn't work full time, I would still send my kids to school on their usual 2 day/week schedule. The art projects, reading, writing, stories, activities- not to mention overall social interation with other children and adults is- in my opionion- a huge gain to their development.
I'm spoiled and have grandmas to watch my kids 2 days a week. Husband 1 day (he works 4 10s), and then school the other 2. I'm one of those moms that couldn't be home all day, everyday with a 1 & 3 yr old. Just wouldn't work for me. But we've still had to sacrifice as childcare in my area is outrageous. I pay $1000/mo for 2 days/week for 2 children. It's easy to see why a lot of women dont' go back to work- if that were 5 days a week, you'd have to ask yourself if what you end up bringing home is really worth it?
I'm spoiled and have grandmas to watch my kids 2 days a week. Husband 1 day (he works 4 10s), and then school the other 2. I'm one of those moms that couldn't be home all day, everyday with a 1 & 3 yr old. Just wouldn't work for me. But we've still had to sacrifice as childcare in my area is outrageous. I pay $1000/mo for 2 days/week for 2 children. It's easy to see why a lot of women dont' go back to work- if that were 5 days a week, you'd have to ask yourself if what you end up bringing home is really worth it?
I wanted to stay home when my daughter was born but couldn't afford the loss of income so I started an in-home daycare. I love it! I'm here for my daughter every day, i make better money then when I worked outside the home. The tax deductions are unbelievable!! But I do miss out on chances to go on those field trips and help out at school alot. My sister will come watch the kids from time to time so I can do some of those things at school with my daughter.
And the biggest bonus is all the kids we have added to our family!! I have raised many of my daycare kids from infant until they go to school full time, it breaks my heart when they leave me.
And the biggest bonus is all the kids we have added to our family!! I have raised many of my daycare kids from infant until they go to school full time, it breaks my heart when they leave me.
I am blessed to be young and able to have my wife (my wife on 5/21 
) be a stay at home mom to our 6 mo old. She, me, we wouldnt havent it any other way! Who better to have be there for her other then her mom the benefits out way the money hands down for us but to each there own. If you can do it i would say DOO IT!!
) be a stay at home mom to our 6 mo old. She, me, we wouldnt havent it any other way! Who better to have be there for her other then her mom the benefits out way the money hands down for us but to each there own. If you can do it i would say DOO IT!!