Lost My Friend Today

garyl62

Active member
We planned a weekend snowmobile trip with 3 other families for Feb 27-March 1, 2004 to Hayward, WI. We all rode a lot on Saturday the 28th but the high temp was 48 degrees and there were only a couple people riding liquid cooled machines so we started evaluating our plans for Sunday the 29th. That morning we woke up to a sunny sky and a projected high temp of 50. So, after a quick ride in the morning we opted for plan B. The girls took most of the kids to the mall in Rice Lake while the guys stayed back at the cabin and sat in lawn chairs around a makeshift fire pit on the lake enjoying the sun and a cold one or two. Little did we know how our lives would change because of those “stupid warm temps” that kept us from riding that day.

The girls met a family selling Saint Bernard puppies at a “Home Show” in the mall. It didn’t take long for the other wives and kids to convince my wife she “just had to buy” the last puppy they had for sale as a surprise anniversary gift for me since the next day was our anniversary. So they hurried up and finished their shopping, picked up the dog and brought her back to the cabin. They hid her behind themselves as they walked out on the lake and yelled “Surprise!” as they brought her out.

There were a lot of memories made that day, and those that followed, but the most important thing we needed to do was come up with a name. We debated over a few different ideas but we wanted something easy to say, identifiable, not common but not unusual either. It wasn’t long and we realized the weekend before Hayward had hosted the 29th annual American Birkebeiner ski race known to many as “The Birkie”. That was it, something that fit the bill, and would always keep in mind where and when we got her. On that day we welcomed “Birkie” to our family.

It’s been just over nine years now and we have shared a lot with this great dog. She has been the gentle giant that has endured, protected, comforted and played with everyone in our family but we noticed three short weeks ago her steps were slower, getting up was becoming harder, and she regularly evaluated the reward for the effort she was going to put out. While we began to expect arthritis or hip problems a trip to the vet revealed a fast moving bone cancer. He told us we should be ready to make some choices in 2 or 3 weeks.

So after telling some friends, who then all came this week to visit, taking a lot more photos, spending some extra time rubbing her tummy and just saying goodbye, I took her on her last ride in the truck today. We went through the McDonalds drive-thru, bought her 3 burgers, cruised around town then brought her to the vet where I went with her into the exam room and sat by her rubbing behind her ears as she slipped away.

I know many of you have done the same thing, but today was my turn and while it’s never easy it was the right thing to do.

Here are a few photos starting with the day we got her and ending with today.

Birkie Day 1.jpg Dishwasher.jpg Birkie close up.jpg DSC05045.jpg DSC05060.jpg
 

Admin

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Staff member
So sorry to hear about your loss, but thanks for sharing your stories with us.

Rest in Peace Birkie.

-John
 

frosty

Member
Sorry for your loss. So so sorry, its hard to explain to anyone unless you have a best friend like this. :(
 

skiroule

Well-known member
Gary,

At moments like this I think about the times I've had to go through with what you've just had to do. Not once have I made it without breaking down. Believe me, I've tried. I'm supposed to be the big tough guy but it never works that way. My wife went with me once and she never went again. It was that hard for her.

You know you did the right thing by not being selfish and making her suffer needlessly but it's so hard to give up a companion that has given you so much.

Take care, and thanks for the photos,
Ski
 

gary_in_neenah

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Staff member
Gary,
Very well written. We lost ours last November and the visuals of that day still haunt me. But like they say, it does get better as time goes on. My wife has hinted at getting another dog and I'm sure we will some day.
Birkie was a handsome dog and she'll be waiting for you on the other side. Better days are coming soon! All is well on Rainbow Bridge...

Gary
 

live4now

Member
Sooo sorry for your loss...I also just lost my buddy 3 months
ago..its tough, but it does get easier with time..
 
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Deleted member 10829

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Man, these are always so hard for me to read, yet what a great story you told. It's a tribute to Birkie! :) I will think of this every time I hear the name of the race being promoted each year. Those of us that have, or have had dogs, knows the bond that develops between us and our pets. They become just like family. Sorry for you and your family's loss!
 

willey

New member
So sorry! I've been there this past year also. Its the one gift we are able to give them for all the dedication and unconditional love they give us. Love the name "Birkie"
 

jr37

Well-known member
Sorry for your lose. That was a nice story you shared with us. I would think that McDonalds and a ride was a great last day.
 

m8man

Moderator
Gosh so sorry to hear of your loss.

what a very nice write up you did, very well done.

RIP Birkie

m8man
 

cummins

Member
I have teary eyes as I can relate to your loss as we lost our Gracie last Sept. It is true that time does help, but it will be a month or so. We did get another rescue/shelter dog and are blessed with how good she is. When (or if) the time is right, you will know if you're ready for another great companion.
 

Firecatguy

New member
Sorry for your lose very tuff thing to go threw they are part the family! great looking pup....My pup loves to lick the dirty dishes in the wash.....
 

kip

Well-known member
Sorry for your loss Gary. My wife and I have two young kids. A year ago this past february we had to put down our lab/retriever mix. He has just shy of eight. He would go with my kids every morning to the school bus and sit right next to them and never left their side until they got on the bus safe and sound. He developed Cancer. Even the morning we put him down as sick as he was he still got up and sat next to the kids. It was very heart warming especially knowing what we had to do next. A month later we got a bloodhound puppy to relieve us all of the loss. She was great but only made it 11 months. She was trained well but a hound is a hound and sometimes they follow their nose. I went to work on a Sunday to meet a customer and shortly after my wife left her out to go to her business. Unfortunately she followed me. She didn't make it across the road. I ran to her right away and swooped her up in my arms, not easy! I made it 40 minutes up to the vet with her head lying on my lap and I cried the whole way. I prayed to God that she would make it. She did so good but as soon as I opened the door of my truck and left her to prop open the vet door she took a big gasp as if she fought as long as she could. I lifted her on the table and she only made it a couple of minutes before passing. Still tears me up to this day. Two loving animals in less than 7 months were gone. My kids and wife were crushed as was I. I guess that's life and sometimes God needs good animals as well. This did not stop us. We now still have our faithful 17year old American Eskimo and we have also brought a new bloodhound puppy to our house and a Australian Shepard! I feel your loss Gary and though our pets can't be replaced our new family friends bring us much happiness. Good Luck!
 

LoveMyDobe

Active member
So sorry for your loss of your wonderful friend and family member. I too have lost a Dobe to bone cancer. It was a very fast moving cancer too. Had to make the decision to let him go even though he still acted as if he wasn't in pain, but he was.
RUN FREE BIRKIE< RUN FREE
 

skiroule

Well-known member
Gary,

I re-read your story again today. What a great story. I think that at least half of our dogs have been "unplanned" additions. It's not an accident. It's all part of their master plan. While you may have been tricked into taking her home, Birkie did what she was meant to do: make your life just that much better. You'll never forget the good times you had with her.
 

durphee

Well-known member
Gary, thanks for sharing your story. My father was a vet for 40 years and I worked with him growing up and into college. A sad part of the job was handling these situations but knowing it was the best interest for the animal was the important thing. There were always lots of tears, hugs and memories. Its amazing how much an animal can become a piece of a family.
As for me, I have a link to Hayward with my dog. I rescued a male yellow lab about 10 years ago. On the way home the name just hit me, "Durphee." We have owned a cabin in Hayward for over 50 years on a small little lake right across from Anglers Haven called Durphee, hence my john dee member name. Hes 11 now, slowing down quite a bit, losing a little vision but when i get him back up to the cabin its swimming, sticks, and chasing ducks all day, every day. Thanks for sharing your story!
 
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